Earlier this year, I had a disagreement with a close friend — one of those moments where you’re both so certain you’re right that you can’t even imagine the other person seeing it differently.

You know that feeling?

Where you replay the conversation in your head, convinced you’re the reasonable one…

and they’re just not getting it?

Well, that was me.

And it forced me to confront something I teach all the time:

When you’re in the middle of something, you can’t always see yourself clearly.

We all have blind spots.

Not because we’re broken…

but because we’re human.

And that same thing shows up in dating.

You might think you’re being “careful,” when really you’re protecting yourself from hurt.

You might believe you’re being “picky,” when actually your nervous system doesn’t feel safe yet.

You might swear you keep choosing the wrong people…

without noticing the pattern you’re unconsciously repeating.

And none of that is your fault.

You’re doing the best you can with what you can see.

But here’s the truth I wish someone said to me sooner:

You can’t change what you can’t see.

That’s why having someone outside your story — someone trained to notice the patterns, the fears, the blind spots, the self-protection, the push–pull — is life-changing.

That’s what I do with my clients every day.

I help you see the thing beneath the thing…

so you can finally shift it.

And Joseph, if you’ve been telling yourself “I’ll figure it out,” or “I just need to try harder,” or “maybe next year will be different,” I want you to hear me:

Now is the time to do it differently.

Not someday.

Not when you’re “more ready.”

Not after one more year of guessing.

Because guessing your way through dating has already shown you where it leads — confusion, frustration, and that familiar feeling of “Why isn’t this working for me?”

But when you understand what’s actually been getting in your way…

that’s when everything changes.

That’s when you finally create momentum.

That’s when you meet people who can love you the way you want to be loved.

And if you want next year to be the year you finally get into a loving, healthy relationship —

the year you look back on and think,

“I’m so glad I didn’t keep doing this alone…”

Then I’d love to help you map out your next steps.

Just you and me.

A real conversation about where you are, what’s been blocking you, and what needs to shift so love can actually land this time.

Click here to book your call.

You deserve clarity.

You deserve support.

And you deserve a relationship that feels like home — not hard work.

Remember, you’re only one date away from a loving relationship.

Xx,

Elizabeth