We need to talk about the list.

You know the one.

• 6 feet tall

• 6-figure income

• 6-pack abs (or… the other six, you know exactly what I mean)

The Three Sixes.

It’s the unspoken checklist many women use when evaluating a man’s potential.

And listen I get it.

You want to feel safe.

You want to be attracted to your partner.

You want someone who’s got his life together.

Nothing wrong with that.

But here’s the truth no one tells you:

None of those things height, money, or muscle will make you feel seen, chosen, or emotionally secure.

Because while you’re swiping for the Three Sixes…

The men who are actually ready for love?

They’re scanning for something entirely different.

I call them the Three F’s—and they have nothing to do with being flawless, filtered, or fashionable.

Stick with me and see what emotionally available men are really feeling for.

The 3 Sixes: What Many Women Seek

1. 6 feet tall – It feels strong, masculine, and protective. That “he can wrap me up in a hug” energy.

2. 6-figure income – The provider instinct. Stability, capability, the idea that you could build a future together.

3. 6-pack abs (or 6 inches) Sexual attraction, confidence, physical chemistry.

These are real desires. I’m not here to shame them.

But none of these things can hold you when you’re crying at midnight, help you navigate conflict, or co-create a partnership that actually lasts.

Now let’s talk about what he’s unconsciously scanning for:

The 3 F’s: What Emotionally Available Men Seek

1. Feminine Energy

Not “chill girl” energy. Not perfection or people-pleasing.

Feminine energy is about presence. Warmth. Receptivity.

It’s being connected to your body and emotions not performing, proving, or pushing.

It’s the woman who knows how to receive.

Who leans back.

Who makes space for him to lean in.

2. Freedom from Criticism

Here’s the one that no one says out loud:

Most men aren’t afraid of commitment.

They’re afraid of judgment.

They want to feel safe around you. Trusted. Respected.

If he senses he’s walking into a space where he’ll be constantly corrected, questioned, or critiqued he’ll pull away. Fast.

The woman who can communicate her needs without blame or shame?

She’s unforgettable.

3. Fun & Flow

This isn’t about being “low maintenance.”

It’s about ease.

The woman who brings laughter, lightness, and flow into his world?

She stands out.

Not because she’s trying to impress him.

But because her presence feels like relief.

And when a man feels emotionally energized around you instead of drained?

He stays.

That kind of energy? It’s magnetic.

So here’s your shift:

While the Three Sixes focus on what he has,

the Three F’s reflect who you are.

And the kind of partner you’re attracting will always be a match to your energy, not your list.

If you’re wondering why you keep attracting men who feel like more work than they’re worth or why you’re still not getting chosen by the one who “checks all the boxes" this is it.

You don’t get what you want.

You get who you are.

And if you’re thinking, “Okay, but how do I become that version of me?”

The one who embodies these F’s in real life, not just on paper?

Well, that’s exactly what I teach inside my Love Accelerated Masterclass.

Let’s just say: once you understand the energetics behind real attraction dating starts feeling a lot less confusing… and a whole lot more magnetic.

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Remember, you’re only one date away from a loving relationship.

Xx Elizabeth