What are the things that you value?

Is it a career?
Are you happily enjoying it? Did you work at it every day? Were you diligent with it? Did you have a clear plan where you wanted to go? Did you consistently show up and give 100%?

Is it a degree, a promotion or an award?
Were you happy when you received it? Did you put in the hours, did the necessary work and expend energy to get what you wanted?

Is it a relationship?
Are you grateful the way it unfolded? Was it organic? Did you text or have phone calls and meet up regularly? Were you there for the person supporting and encouraging them and were they there for you?

All of these things involved you doing something. They didn’t just happen randomly.

Do you see the common denominator in all of the things that you value?
Do you see that you put in the time to make it a possibility?
Do you remember the effort you made to create it?
Do you recall the energy you expended to make the things you now value a reality?

It's the same with relationships.

It takes time to get to know someone, to get to know the person before you ever decide to meet.
It takes effort with both people asking questions, listening openly and answering honestly.
It takes energy. (This is where the woo woo part comes in.) Be open and compassionate yet discerning and decisive. Check in with yourself and notice if there's any discomfort in your body. If there is, that means there's something about this person that doesn't feel right.
Ask questions to gain clarity and see if the discomfort subsides. The way you feel in your body is never wrong.

I know you understand this. It makes sense but just in case, here it is again. The reason being that the more often you see something, the more likely you’ll actually take that information and use it.

3 Things Needed To Create A Relationship

1. Time
   

2. Energy
   

3. Effort

So I ask you, those of you who want a relationship, these following questions.

3 Things To Ask Yourself If You Really Want A Relationship

1. Why are you wanting to rush things when you meet someone?

2. Why aren't you making the effort to find out more about him and being assured he is making an effort, too?

3. Why are you jumping in with your heart, soul and body so quickly?

You're not alone. We’ve all been guilty of this.

You want what you want and you want it now.
You want to be loved.
You want instant gratification.
You see something that catches your interest and that lights you up and you go full barrel ahead.

Perhaps you ignored the yellow flags. Maybe you brushed past the orange ones. You didn't ask questions. You didn't do your due diligence. You met up and it didn't go the way you imagined.
Wonder why?

You didn't take the time, the effort or use the right energy to get to know the man. And now you're frustrated. And alone, again.

I get it. I've been there. I don't promise to have all the answers because I'm on the journey, too. I am 5-10 steps ahead of you. I've learned what works and what doesn't. I don't want it to take you years to figure out so I'm offering to cut the learning curve in half. If you'd like to easily attract the right one for you, if you'd like to learn how to have fun dating and getting to know your match quicker, I invite you to get on a call with me.
Use this link to book your free call,

https://calendly.com/elizabeth-tritsch/60min 

Date intentionally by taking time, energy and effort,
Elizabeth