When Sarah first came to me, she was exhausted from dating.

She’d spent years playing it safe, waiting for the “right moment” to put herself out there, always second-guessing if she should express her feelings. She was terrified of rejection, so instead of taking bold steps toward love, she stayed in her comfort zone.

“I just don’t want to feel like a fool,” she admitted during one of our coaching sessions. “What if I open up to someone and they don’t feel the same way?”

I smiled because I knew exactly what was holding her back.

“Sarah, not going for what you want is just like being rejected—but worse,” I told her.

She blinked at me. “Worse?”

“Yes! Because when you take action, you gain clarity. If you express your feelings and the person says no, you’ve learned something: they’re not a match for you. But when you hold back, you stay stuck in the unknown, and that uncertainty keeps you from moving forward.”

Her face shifted as she let the idea sink in.

I continued, “You’re already living your worst-case scenario. You’ve been rejecting yourself before anyone else even has the chance.”

The Moment Everything Changed

Sarah had been interested in a guy from her gym for months. They exchanged friendly smiles, had great conversations, and she felt a connection—but she never took the next step.

“What if I ask him to grab coffee and he says no?” she worried.

“But what if he says yes?” I countered.

She laughed nervously but promised to take action. A few days later, she did it. She casually suggested coffee after a workout, and he immediately agreed.

That moment changed everything for her.

Even though the connection didn’t ultimately turn into a relationship, she realized something huge: The real risk wasn’t rejection. The real risk was rejecting herself by never trying.

From Playing It Safe to Taking Bold Action

From that day on, Sarah adopted what I call a bias for action.

She started saying yes to opportunities instead of waiting for the perfect moment. She initiated conversations, sent the first message, and stopped assuming she’d be rejected before she even tried.

And then something amazing happened.

She met someone new—a man who adored her confidence, appreciated her energy, and pursued her just as much as she pursued him.

After months of holding back in fear, Sarah finally took bold steps toward love—and it paid off.

What Sarah Learned (And What You Can Too)

If you’re afraid of rejection, let Sarah’s story be your reminder:

• Not taking action is the same as being rejected—but worse. It keeps you stuck in the unknown.

• You either win or you learn. Every step you take brings clarity and moves you forward.

• You are the prize. Love isn’t about waiting to be chosen—it’s about stepping into your worth and going after what you want.

Sarah’s transformation didn’t happen because she got lucky. It happened because she stopped rejecting herself and started believing in her own value.

Now, I have to ask you:

With Valentine's Day coming up, what bold step will YOU take today?

Remember, you’re only one date away from a LTR

Xx, Elizabeth

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